Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
I really love this press statement....
28th August 2009
While Mr. P. Gunasegaran ( No to whipping for drinking, 28 Aug 2009, Star ) and those in the similar vein are entitled to their freedom of expression, it nonetheless needs to be pointed out that his abrasive intrusion into the intoxicating whipping debate is in extreme bad taste and a blatant affront to Muslim sensitivity.
His high and mighty pronouncement ( read fatwa ) based on his secular theology and his one sentence reference to some unnamed Muslim scholar, makes him an overnight jurist ( read Mufti ) !
Despite 52 years of Merdeka, quite apparently and most unfortunately, the civilized and democratic values of mutual respect is sorely missing in our multi-religious co-existence. And as far as Muslims are concerned, there has been one too many Islamophobic sentiments snowballing by the day in the mainstream editorials, press reports and cyber portals.
Fed by deep-seated prejudice, and popular misconceptions towards Islam and the Shariah, the words "barbaric", "cruel", and "inhumane" are hurled without regard for the sensitivity of Muslims.
Barbaric, cruel, and inhumane are after all relative terms that are employed to demonize the other. This media onslaught, directly or indirectly, knowingly or unknowingly, attempts to belittle and humiliate the Shariah justice system, an entire institution whose place in our nation is legitimated by history and the Constitution.
What else does one make of the following headlines “and lets do away with a slew of outmoded, archaic laws in the statute books, both syariah and civil”. He further adds “there is real danger of disarray when man purports to speak for God”. I hasten to respond by asking - should we then let him (the editor) play God or better still be God ?
Islam, meaning ‘submission’- however awkward such a notion is to secular liberal thinking – is acceptance with a free conscience both the tenets of the faith and outwardly the injunctions of the Shariah which encompasses formal ritual worship and the regulation of personal and social mores based on sacred texts.
Believers of other faiths, liberal secularists and secular atheists need to understand that Islam is the governing principle in every aspect of a Muslim's life to a degree seldom seen in the adherents and practitioners of other religions. Islam is not just a matter of rituals and worship; Islam is a complete way of life. For those who cannot or will not accept the crucial importance of this most important reality in the life of all Muslims we can only say, hopefully without insult, please stay out of our business.
As Muslims we have no difficulty accepting that non-Muslims have different beliefs and live their lives differently than we do. Please show us the same courtesy.
His editorial among others, reflect the distressing trend that non-Muslims are making ill-informed, prejudiced and unwelcome comments on the religion of the majority of people of this country. This is very unhealthy, and dangerously crossing the lines of civilized discourse.
There exists a myriad of opinions on the issue of consumption of intoxicants. But the Muslim scholars are unanimous that the offender must be punished.
If the offence is considered under the jurisdiction of hudud (limits), as is embraced by the schools of thought of Syafie, Maliki and Hanafi, caning must be meted without exception. This being the stipulate of God for the good of the bigger society.
However, Al-Qaradhawi, the celebrated contemporary scholar, in consonant with the likes of At-Tabari, Ibn Munzir, As-Syawkani and Ibn Qayyim opines that this offence is within the domain of ta’zir (discretionary penalty). Thus, the judge may choose to forgive the first time offender or he may elect to cane the offender and would stipulate the number of canings. As alluded by others, the caning is unlike the brutal and vicious whippings as prescribed by the civil courts.
Asst. Prof. Dr. Zulfakar, who lectures Islamic criminal law in the International Islamic University of Malaysia, and Datuk Abdul Munir Yaakob, SUHAKAM commissioner, concurred that the courts acted within the State Shariah Criminal Offences Act notwithstanding the seven day remand order.
The Shariah court is part of Malaysia's dual justice system which has jurisdiction over Muslims and the decision of the Kuantan Shariah High Court must be respected as such That is the rule of law enjoyed by both the Shariah and Civil courts and outside interference would tantamount to contempt of court. The due process of appeal is open to the victim if justice is not done or seen to be done.
In this media frenzy, the irony has not been lost that Kartika herself has accepted the sentence and has refused appeal despite the suggestion by no less the Prime Minister himself. This underscores one of the objectives of the Shariah, to guide Muslims to be more observant of their religious obligations through remorse and repentance.
The controversy surrounding Kartika's sentencing also exposes the sometimes uneasy co-existence of the world views of Islam and that of modern secular society. Attempts to fit Islam into the secular world view is like forcing a square peg into a round hole.
Globally, the World Health Organisation (WHO) reports that alcohol causes 1.8 million deaths (3.2% of total) and 58.3 million (4% of total) of Disability-Adjusted Life Years (DALYs). The U.S. Department of Justice Report on Alcohol and Crime found that alcohol abuse was a factor in 40 percent of violent crimes committed in the U.S. The British Home office reports a figure of 45% which rose to 58% in cases of attacks by unrecognized persons. We have not even begun to mention the primary role of alcohol in road traffic accidents, domestic violence, drug dependence, alcoholism, women and alcohol, adolescents and alcohol, fetal alcohol syndrome, alcohol and liver cirrhosis, alcohol and brain damage, alcohol and cancer risk, the causal link between alcohol and 60 different types of diseases etc.
God says in the Quran, Chapter 2, Verse 219 :
“They ask you concerning wine and gambling. Say: 'There is a great sin in both of them, and (some) profits for people; but their sin is greater than their profit …”
As Muslims, our absolute love and allegiance is to our Creator, whose infinite wisdom we do not question. Thus, it is completely unacceptable and reprehensible that any from amongst his creations, should instruct us otherwise applying their fallible human and secular opinions and standards.
Board of Directors
Muslim Professionals Forum
Dr. Mazeni Alwi
Dr. Jeffrey Abu Hassan
Dr. Shaikh Johari Bux
Haji Mohamed Ali Ghazali
Dato’ Dr. Musa Mohd. Nordin
O Allah, please put this world in my hand and not in my heart for I desire the heart which always remember You all the time. Please forgive me for I have sin.
Verily You are the Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Verily You are the Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Yang Di Tunggu Dah Tiba!
WAFIYAH Cucu ku Sayang - Born 24/12/08, Alhamdulillah!
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Friday, August 28, 2009
3R - Remaja Raikan Ramadhan , 26-27 Ogos 09
BismillahirrahmanirraheemSchool break coincided with the first week of Ramadhan. Our boys went back Saturday morning, 1st Ramadhan after being sent home for one week due to the H1N1 outbreak. They were happy of 'cos to be back, but not too happy having to head back to school just as others head home from school for the one week break! oh well, they'll be back one week early for the raya break . that's a consolation enough.
Saturday morning I had a ladies' programme, as scheduled. We hosted for zon 1 Selangor - Ampang Jaya, Gombak, Hulu Langat, Hulu Selangor & Kelang. As hosts we had to be there early, so had to bid the boys bye bye at home instead of at the bus stand. Bye-bye boys! Safe journey, insyaAllah.
Zharif had ujian diagnostik for std 1 entrance to Al Amin, so Lan had to send him there, taking Ulfah & Filzah along. The test would start at 9, so everybody had to move early too, to send the boys to Hentian Putra & rush back to SRIAAG by 9, though the bus only leaves at 9.30!
Rush! rush! rush! as usual.. hehe. At 9,30 got a call from Lan... oh oh.. Zharif's turn is at 11.30, since mom&dad need not go thru the parents' interview session :) sowwy! Back to bed,Lan said...call me up at 11, in case I oversleep... hmmm
We normally had KRJ prog during school breaks - no news so far. Halipah is the new KRJ wanita head, she wanted to, but haven't done anything as yet.. huhu
Masjid alMardhiyyah wanted us to organise something for the remaja, so we decided to give it a go. Not much time left, but we'll manage, insyaAllah. Othman agreed to it & will consult the AJK Masjid.
Alhamdulillah Bai too agreed to handle the programme, phew! that was a great relief, otherwise it would be big trouble for us...
Monday morning went to see Bai & Nina to discuss the details.It'll be on Wednesday-Thursday, 2 days away.... "How many participants, mcik??" who knows, we haven't even announced it! haha.
Then began the mad rush of preparing the flyers & posters , though distribution pending, waiting for the masjid's approval. After maghrib we presented our working paper to the AJKs. They were quite sceptical - with one day promotion, can we get the number ?? insyaAllah.... :)
The programme was announced after isya' & the first batch of flyers were distributed immediately after tarawikh.
Tuesday was the only day left... registration was trickling...worry! worry!
Wednesday morning, went to the Masjid with a very heavy heart, worried sick that only a handful would turn up..... who knows, ajk & facies might outnumber the paricipants!boo hoo
Alhamdulillah thummalhamdulillah! by 9 we had more than 40 boys & girls eargerly waiting for the programme to start (huh??)
And so the show began, with Bai & team handling the programme superbly! ALHAMDULILLAH!
Monday, August 24, 2009
Ahlan Ramadhan
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
Ramadhan is indeed a month full of tests & tribulations, be it in the form of musibah or ni'mat.These gauge our level of taqwa, based on the way we react - syukur for the wealth & health, & accept - redha with what comes our way. Allah's promise of jannah & all things good that come with Ramadhan doesn't come cheap! La'allakum tattaqun - attaining highest taqwa is not as simple as alif ba ta.
Preparing to welcome this holy month is never ending, no matter how much reading I did, discussions participated in nor tapes listened to. There seems to be so much to do to grab all the bounties promised.
Oh Allah, make us among those whom You bestow your rahmah - the time & will to prostrate only unto You, especially in the last 10 days of Ramadhan. Oh Allah, give us the strength....Ameen.
This Ramadhan, as during the previous 2 Ramadhans, we intended to spend our time at Masjid AsySyakiin KLCC. It would be so convenient - iftar & staying till after tarawikh - time would not be wasted & I need not do much cooking!! The kids loved it too, seeing old friends & having a ball running around in the large open area. More importantly, their presence wouldn't be a nuisance to the jemaah. I loved it here mainly because of that, not having to worry about people scorning at me for bringing kids who make lots of noise, disturbing those praying. With the kids outside under the watchful eyes of the guards, I can pray in peace Alhamdulillah
Fisrt night of tarawikh we made our way to KLCC - wahhhh! it had changed since the last time we were there... there was an additional level & the fountain was nomore there! Renovation work was still in progress. It was ok though, Alhamdulillah
1st Ramadhan, Lan had a bad flu, so bye bye KLCC! Worried about H1N1,we had iftar at home & went to surau al Aqsa for tarawikh. It was quite a let down though - the imam was good, a hafiz, alhamdulillah. He recited ok during fardhu prayers but was too fast for comprehension during tarawikh prayers. Astaghfirullah.. we looked at each other in the car & agreed that it's bye bye surau al Aqsa....
Heard about the good food at Masjid Mardhiyyah he he , so we made a beeline to al Mardhiyyah for our second day iftar. It's somewhere familiar, we saw all the familiar faces & indeed! the food was good!! Salmi's the caterer, no wonder..
Besides the good food,which is a bonus; praying in the air-cond + the kids in the playing area outside + just nearby our place, this seemed perfect! With these conveniences, al Mardhiyyah it'll be this Ramadhan! insyaAllah
Ramadhan is indeed a month full of tests & tribulations, be it in the form of musibah or ni'mat.These gauge our level of taqwa, based on the way we react - syukur for the wealth & health, & accept - redha with what comes our way. Allah's promise of jannah & all things good that come with Ramadhan doesn't come cheap! La'allakum tattaqun - attaining highest taqwa is not as simple as alif ba ta.
Preparing to welcome this holy month is never ending, no matter how much reading I did, discussions participated in nor tapes listened to. There seems to be so much to do to grab all the bounties promised.
Oh Allah, make us among those whom You bestow your rahmah - the time & will to prostrate only unto You, especially in the last 10 days of Ramadhan. Oh Allah, give us the strength....Ameen.
This Ramadhan, as during the previous 2 Ramadhans, we intended to spend our time at Masjid AsySyakiin KLCC. It would be so convenient - iftar & staying till after tarawikh - time would not be wasted & I need not do much cooking!! The kids loved it too, seeing old friends & having a ball running around in the large open area. More importantly, their presence wouldn't be a nuisance to the jemaah. I loved it here mainly because of that, not having to worry about people scorning at me for bringing kids who make lots of noise, disturbing those praying. With the kids outside under the watchful eyes of the guards, I can pray in peace Alhamdulillah
Fisrt night of tarawikh we made our way to KLCC - wahhhh! it had changed since the last time we were there... there was an additional level & the fountain was nomore there! Renovation work was still in progress. It was ok though, Alhamdulillah
1st Ramadhan, Lan had a bad flu, so bye bye KLCC! Worried about H1N1,we had iftar at home & went to surau al Aqsa for tarawikh. It was quite a let down though - the imam was good, a hafiz, alhamdulillah. He recited ok during fardhu prayers but was too fast for comprehension during tarawikh prayers. Astaghfirullah.. we looked at each other in the car & agreed that it's bye bye surau al Aqsa....
Heard about the good food at Masjid Mardhiyyah he he , so we made a beeline to al Mardhiyyah for our second day iftar. It's somewhere familiar, we saw all the familiar faces & indeed! the food was good!! Salmi's the caterer, no wonder..
Besides the good food,which is a bonus; praying in the air-cond + the kids in the playing area outside + just nearby our place, this seemed perfect! With these conveniences, al Mardhiyyah it'll be this Ramadhan! insyaAllah
Saturday, August 22, 2009
MUJAHID
Thursday, July 30, 2009
HIMPUNAN ISA , 1 Ogos09
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
We are answerable in front of Allah for our actions, or non-actions, for that matter! - come join the masses!
We are answerable in front of Allah for our actions, or non-actions, for that matter! - come join the masses!
Monday, July 20, 2009
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Wednesday, July 08, 2009
STOP, NOW!
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
here's another good article. It's an old & stale story, but people never learn... STOP taking soft drinks NOW!!
But here’s some information that may keep you away from opening the can:
1. Extra pounds
Soda is a significant contributor to obesity. Drinking a single can a day of sugary drinks translates to more than a pound of weight gain every month. And diet soda is just as likely to cause weight gain as regular, or even more -- it may sound counterintuitive, but people who drink diet soft drinks actually don’t lose weight. Artificial sweeteners induce a whole set of physiologic and hormonal responses that actually make you gain weight.
2. Liver damage
Soda damages your liver. Consumption of too many soft drinks puts you under increased risk for liver cirrhosis similar to the increased risk faced by chronic alcoholics.
3. Tooth decay
Soda dissolves tooth enamel. Soft drinks are responsible for doubling or tripling the incidence of tooth decay. Soda's acidity is even worse for teeth than the solid sugar found in candy.
4. Kidney stones and chronic kidney disease
Colas of all kinds are well known for their high phosphoric acid content, a substance that changes the urine in a way that promotes kidney stone formation. Drinking one quart (less than three 12-ounce cans) of soda per week may increase your risk of developing kidney stones by 15 percent.
5. Diabetes
Anything that promotes weight gain increases the risk of diabetes. Drinking soda also stresses your body's ability to process sugar. Some scientists now suspect that this may explain why the number of Americans with type 2 diabetes has tripled from 6.6 million in 1980 to 20.8 million today.
6. Heartburn & acid reflux
Heavy consumption of soda is a strong predictor of heartburn. Many carbonated beverages are very acidic. They also deliver a lot of air in the form of carbon dioxide, which can cause distension of your stomach. And that distension appears to be associated with more reflux.
7. Soft drinks = Soft Bones = Osteoporosis
Soft drinks containing phosphoric acid are definitely linked to osteoporosis (a weakening of your skeletal structure) because they lead to lower calcium levels and higher phosphate levels in your blood. When phosphate levels are high and calcium levels are low, calcium is pulled out of your bones.
8. Hypertension (high blood pressure)
Experts have reasons to believe that overconsumption of soda leads to an increase in blood pressure. It doesn't matter if the soda is regular or diet.
9. Heart disease
Heavy soda drinkers are more likely to develop risk factors for heart disease. Research shows that drinking more than one soft drink a day is associated with an increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome -- a group of symptoms such as central obesity, elevated blood pressure, elevated fasting blood sugar, elevated fasting triglycerides, and low levels of HDL or "good" cholesterol. Having three or more of the symptoms increases your risk of developing diabetes and cardiovascular disease.
10. Impaired digestion (gastrointestinal distress)
Gastrointestinal distress includes increased stomach acid levels requiring acid inhibitors, and moderate to severe gastric inflammation with possible stomach lining erosion. Drinking sodas, especially on an empty stomach, can upset the fragile acid-alkaline balance of your stomach and other gastric lining, creating a continuous acid environment. This prolonged acid environment can lead to inflammation of your stomach and duodenal lining.
Health Newsletter
here's another good article. It's an old & stale story, but people never learn... STOP taking soft drinks NOW!!
10 Diseases Linked To Soda
Soda, sugar, high fructose corn syrup, HFCS. Statistics shows that Americans drink more soda than ever before. They account for more than 25 percent of all drinks consumed in the United States. More than 15 billion gallons were sold in 2000 -- about one 12-ounce can per day for every man, woman and child.But here’s some information that may keep you away from opening the can:

1. Extra pounds
Soda is a significant contributor to obesity. Drinking a single can a day of sugary drinks translates to more than a pound of weight gain every month. And diet soda is just as likely to cause weight gain as regular, or even more -- it may sound counterintuitive, but people who drink diet soft drinks actually don’t lose weight. Artificial sweeteners induce a whole set of physiologic and hormonal responses that actually make you gain weight.
2. Liver damage
Soda damages your liver. Consumption of too many soft drinks puts you under increased risk for liver cirrhosis similar to the increased risk faced by chronic alcoholics.
3. Tooth decay
Soda dissolves tooth enamel. Soft drinks are responsible for doubling or tripling the incidence of tooth decay. Soda's acidity is even worse for teeth than the solid sugar found in candy.
4. Kidney stones and chronic kidney disease
Colas of all kinds are well known for their high phosphoric acid content, a substance that changes the urine in a way that promotes kidney stone formation. Drinking one quart (less than three 12-ounce cans) of soda per week may increase your risk of developing kidney stones by 15 percent.
5. Diabetes
Anything that promotes weight gain increases the risk of diabetes. Drinking soda also stresses your body's ability to process sugar. Some scientists now suspect that this may explain why the number of Americans with type 2 diabetes has tripled from 6.6 million in 1980 to 20.8 million today.
6. Heartburn & acid reflux
Heavy consumption of soda is a strong predictor of heartburn. Many carbonated beverages are very acidic. They also deliver a lot of air in the form of carbon dioxide, which can cause distension of your stomach. And that distension appears to be associated with more reflux.
7. Soft drinks = Soft Bones = Osteoporosis
Soft drinks containing phosphoric acid are definitely linked to osteoporosis (a weakening of your skeletal structure) because they lead to lower calcium levels and higher phosphate levels in your blood. When phosphate levels are high and calcium levels are low, calcium is pulled out of your bones.
8. Hypertension (high blood pressure)
Experts have reasons to believe that overconsumption of soda leads to an increase in blood pressure. It doesn't matter if the soda is regular or diet.
9. Heart disease
Heavy soda drinkers are more likely to develop risk factors for heart disease. Research shows that drinking more than one soft drink a day is associated with an increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome -- a group of symptoms such as central obesity, elevated blood pressure, elevated fasting blood sugar, elevated fasting triglycerides, and low levels of HDL or "good" cholesterol. Having three or more of the symptoms increases your risk of developing diabetes and cardiovascular disease.
10. Impaired digestion (gastrointestinal distress)
Gastrointestinal distress includes increased stomach acid levels requiring acid inhibitors, and moderate to severe gastric inflammation with possible stomach lining erosion. Drinking sodas, especially on an empty stomach, can upset the fragile acid-alkaline balance of your stomach and other gastric lining, creating a continuous acid environment. This prolonged acid environment can lead to inflammation of your stomach and duodenal lining.
Health Newsletter
Marriages made in heaven...
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
It'd been ages since the last entry :(
Boo hoo, been so busy with sooooo many things + having to update JIM AJ blog
To Afan, K Long & Wafi; Ummi & Baba wish u safe & enjoyable journey-adelaide-newcastle-sydney-melbourne-adelaide (lucky Wafi, Tok got to do that only at the age of 20... on Tok & Tok Wae's honeymoon, ho ho ho).
Remember not to stress yourselves. Drive safely. Stop driving when you feel sleepy. bla...bla... bla..... just remember, we love u lots!!!!
and to 'Iffah - makan ubat!! hope you'll be up & about again soon. To take your IELTS, fill up forms, apply for visa bla..bla.... CONGRATS 'Iffah! just remember, we love u lots too!!
Thank you Marissa for looking after 'Iffah in her time of needs. Moga Allah rahmati
here's a good article to guide us thru turbulances in our marriages ;)
Sekiranya sebelum berkahwin dulu seseorang boleh berkata, "Ini hidup saya, ikut suka sayalah pukul berapa saya hendak pulang ke rumah, atau hendak berkawan dengan siapa." Bagaimanapun, setelah berumahtangga, keadaan berubah. Ijabkabul menjadikan sebahagian dirinya milik "orang lain".
Perkahwinan membawa bersama-sama tanggungjawab. Namun, perkahwinan juga membawa kebahagiaan dan kegembiraan bagi pasangan yang mampu mengharunginya dengan jaya. Usah harapkan rumahtangga yang tidak ada masalah. Belajar bagaimana untuk menguruskan cabaran yang timbul dalam sesebuah perkahwinan itu.
PERSELISIHAN PENDAPAT
Kata orang tua-tua, "Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, inikan pula suami isteri." Perselisihan pendapat adalah merupakan sebahagian asam garam kehidupan berumahtangga. Ia sebenarnya adalah proses mencari satu asas kesamaan dalam satu-satu perkara.
Hal ini tidak dapat dielakkan kerana suami dan isteri dibesarkan dalam suasana yang berbeza dan mempunyai pengalaman hidup sebelum berumahtangga yang berlainan. Selain itu, pendidikan yang diterima dan pergaulan juga mempengaruhi cara seseorang berfikir dan melihat sesuatu isu.
Perselisihan pendapat harus dilihat secara positif. Sekiranya dikendalikan dengan baik, perselisihan pendapat boleh membantu sesuatu pasangan mengukuhkan perkahwinan. Melalui perselisihan pendapat, suami dan isteri dapat mencari titik persamaan.
Adalah lebih baik untuk suami dan isteri berselisih pendapat daripada mendiamkan diri dan memendam rasa. Pasangan yang memendam rasa mungkin kelihatan bahagia pada mata umum, namun rasa tidak berpuas hati yang disimpan boleh menjadi bom jangka yang akan meletup satu hari nanti.
Suami dan isteri harus mempelajari teknik yang betul untuk mengendalikan perselisihan pendapat. Bagaimana?
• Tunjukkan kasih sayang
Ingat, perselisihan pendapat bukanlah sesuatu yang negatif. Ia juga bukan merupakan titik penamat perkahwinan anda. Oleh itu, kendalikan perselisihan pendapat dengan penuh kasih sayang.
Nyatakan ketidaksetujuan anda dengan penuh rasa kecintaan. Tentukan pasangan anda mengetahui bahawa walaupun anda tidak bersetuju dengan pendapat atau perbuatannya, anda sayangkannya.
Sekiranya anda ingin menegur perbuatan suami, mulakan dengan kata-kata seperti: "Abang, Ani amat sayangkan Abang. Ani ucapkan terima kasih kerana selama ini Abang amat baik dan menyayangi Ani. Abang, boleh tak kalau Ani menyatakan sesuatu kepada Abang?"
Suami yang mendengar kata-kata sedemikian tahu bahawa isterinya ingin memberikan pendapat demi kebaikan bersama. Dia akan lebih terbuka untuk mendengar pendapat tersebut.
• Gunakan bahasa yang baik
Layani pasangan anda sebagai kekasih – bukan musuh. Gunakan bahasa yang baik. Sekiranya selama ini anda memanggil isteri anda dengan panggilan "Sayang", "Honey" atau "Intan", gunakan panggilan tersebut walaupun anda berselisih pendapat. Perkataan "awak" tidak manis didengar dan lebih bersifat provokatif.
Elakkan ayat-ayat seperti: "Jangan buatkan saya marah!" "Perbuatan awak ini menyakitkan hati saya!" Sebaliknya, gunakan ayat pemujukan dan berbentuk luahan perasaan seperti: "Kalau Abang pulang awal, kita akan ada banyak masa bersama…" atau "Azie rasa seronok apabila bersama Abang. Boleh tak Abang habiskan cuti setiap hujung minggu bersama Azie?"
• Berikan perhatian
Dengar dengan teliti. Cuba fahami apa yang tersirat di sebalik yang tersurat. Sesekali angguk bagi menunjukkan anda mendengar dan cuba memahami apa yang ingin disuarakan oleh pasangan anda. Sewaktu pasangan anda bercakap, elakkan berfikir bagaimana untuk membalas hujah tersebut. Dengar, dengar dan dengar. Anda bukan di pentas perbahasan dan anda tidak perlu menang dalam perselisihan pendapat dengan pasangan anda.
• Fokus kepada satu isu
Tumpukan perselisihan pendapat kepada satu isu sahaja. Elakkan mengaitkannya dengan isu-isu lain. Lagi banyak isu, bertambah sukar untuk mencari titik persamaan. Elakkan mengaitkan isu tersebut dengan soal peribadi yang tidak boleh diubah. Menyalahkan suami atau isteri kerana dia gemuk, rendah, botak atau latarbelakang keluarganya tidak akan membawa penyelesaian. Sebaliknya, itu akan menjadikannya agresif dan menyerang peribadi anda kembali.
• Baca bahasa gerak badan
Berhati-hati dengan gerak badan anda. Elakkan mencekak pinggang, menuding jari, meninggikan suara dan pandangan tajam. Kesemua ini memberikan gambaran kemarahan anda.
Perhatikan juga gerak badan pasangan anda. Adakah dia menundukkan muka, berdiam diri atau memalingkan muka. Itu mungkin menunjukkan dia sudah tidak berminat untuk berbincang lagi. Mungkin dia kurang senang dengan cara anda.
• Mengalah dan minta maaf
Bersikap rasional. Sekiranya pendapat yang diberikan ada kebenarannya, terimalah. Sekiranya anda bersalah, minta maaf. Suami isteri harus sentiasa membasahkan lidah dengan perkataan "maaf".
Norizan Sharif
It'd been ages since the last entry :(
Boo hoo, been so busy with sooooo many things + having to update JIM AJ blog
To Afan, K Long & Wafi; Ummi & Baba wish u safe & enjoyable journey-adelaide-newcastle-sydney-melbourne-adelaide (lucky Wafi, Tok got to do that only at the age of 20... on Tok & Tok Wae's honeymoon, ho ho ho).
Remember not to stress yourselves. Drive safely. Stop driving when you feel sleepy. bla...bla... bla..... just remember, we love u lots!!!!
and to 'Iffah - makan ubat!! hope you'll be up & about again soon. To take your IELTS, fill up forms, apply for visa bla..bla.... CONGRATS 'Iffah! just remember, we love u lots too!!
Thank you Marissa for looking after 'Iffah in her time of needs. Moga Allah rahmati
here's a good article to guide us thru turbulances in our marriages ;)
MEMBINA KELUARGA DU'AT: Perselisihan Pendapat
Rumahtangga bukanlah istana kayangan. Ia adalah satu perkongsian hidup yang menuntut pengorbanan kedua-dua belah pihak.Sekiranya sebelum berkahwin dulu seseorang boleh berkata, "Ini hidup saya, ikut suka sayalah pukul berapa saya hendak pulang ke rumah, atau hendak berkawan dengan siapa." Bagaimanapun, setelah berumahtangga, keadaan berubah. Ijabkabul menjadikan sebahagian dirinya milik "orang lain".
Perkahwinan membawa bersama-sama tanggungjawab. Namun, perkahwinan juga membawa kebahagiaan dan kegembiraan bagi pasangan yang mampu mengharunginya dengan jaya. Usah harapkan rumahtangga yang tidak ada masalah. Belajar bagaimana untuk menguruskan cabaran yang timbul dalam sesebuah perkahwinan itu.
PERSELISIHAN PENDAPAT
Kata orang tua-tua, "Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, inikan pula suami isteri." Perselisihan pendapat adalah merupakan sebahagian asam garam kehidupan berumahtangga. Ia sebenarnya adalah proses mencari satu asas kesamaan dalam satu-satu perkara.
Hal ini tidak dapat dielakkan kerana suami dan isteri dibesarkan dalam suasana yang berbeza dan mempunyai pengalaman hidup sebelum berumahtangga yang berlainan. Selain itu, pendidikan yang diterima dan pergaulan juga mempengaruhi cara seseorang berfikir dan melihat sesuatu isu.
Perselisihan pendapat harus dilihat secara positif. Sekiranya dikendalikan dengan baik, perselisihan pendapat boleh membantu sesuatu pasangan mengukuhkan perkahwinan. Melalui perselisihan pendapat, suami dan isteri dapat mencari titik persamaan.
Adalah lebih baik untuk suami dan isteri berselisih pendapat daripada mendiamkan diri dan memendam rasa. Pasangan yang memendam rasa mungkin kelihatan bahagia pada mata umum, namun rasa tidak berpuas hati yang disimpan boleh menjadi bom jangka yang akan meletup satu hari nanti.
Suami dan isteri harus mempelajari teknik yang betul untuk mengendalikan perselisihan pendapat. Bagaimana?
• Tunjukkan kasih sayang
Ingat, perselisihan pendapat bukanlah sesuatu yang negatif. Ia juga bukan merupakan titik penamat perkahwinan anda. Oleh itu, kendalikan perselisihan pendapat dengan penuh kasih sayang.
Nyatakan ketidaksetujuan anda dengan penuh rasa kecintaan. Tentukan pasangan anda mengetahui bahawa walaupun anda tidak bersetuju dengan pendapat atau perbuatannya, anda sayangkannya.
Sekiranya anda ingin menegur perbuatan suami, mulakan dengan kata-kata seperti: "Abang, Ani amat sayangkan Abang. Ani ucapkan terima kasih kerana selama ini Abang amat baik dan menyayangi Ani. Abang, boleh tak kalau Ani menyatakan sesuatu kepada Abang?"
Suami yang mendengar kata-kata sedemikian tahu bahawa isterinya ingin memberikan pendapat demi kebaikan bersama. Dia akan lebih terbuka untuk mendengar pendapat tersebut.
• Gunakan bahasa yang baik
Layani pasangan anda sebagai kekasih – bukan musuh. Gunakan bahasa yang baik. Sekiranya selama ini anda memanggil isteri anda dengan panggilan "Sayang", "Honey" atau "Intan", gunakan panggilan tersebut walaupun anda berselisih pendapat. Perkataan "awak" tidak manis didengar dan lebih bersifat provokatif.
Elakkan ayat-ayat seperti: "Jangan buatkan saya marah!" "Perbuatan awak ini menyakitkan hati saya!" Sebaliknya, gunakan ayat pemujukan dan berbentuk luahan perasaan seperti: "Kalau Abang pulang awal, kita akan ada banyak masa bersama…" atau "Azie rasa seronok apabila bersama Abang. Boleh tak Abang habiskan cuti setiap hujung minggu bersama Azie?"
• Berikan perhatian
Dengar dengan teliti. Cuba fahami apa yang tersirat di sebalik yang tersurat. Sesekali angguk bagi menunjukkan anda mendengar dan cuba memahami apa yang ingin disuarakan oleh pasangan anda. Sewaktu pasangan anda bercakap, elakkan berfikir bagaimana untuk membalas hujah tersebut. Dengar, dengar dan dengar. Anda bukan di pentas perbahasan dan anda tidak perlu menang dalam perselisihan pendapat dengan pasangan anda.
• Fokus kepada satu isu
Tumpukan perselisihan pendapat kepada satu isu sahaja. Elakkan mengaitkannya dengan isu-isu lain. Lagi banyak isu, bertambah sukar untuk mencari titik persamaan. Elakkan mengaitkan isu tersebut dengan soal peribadi yang tidak boleh diubah. Menyalahkan suami atau isteri kerana dia gemuk, rendah, botak atau latarbelakang keluarganya tidak akan membawa penyelesaian. Sebaliknya, itu akan menjadikannya agresif dan menyerang peribadi anda kembali.
• Baca bahasa gerak badan
Berhati-hati dengan gerak badan anda. Elakkan mencekak pinggang, menuding jari, meninggikan suara dan pandangan tajam. Kesemua ini memberikan gambaran kemarahan anda.
Perhatikan juga gerak badan pasangan anda. Adakah dia menundukkan muka, berdiam diri atau memalingkan muka. Itu mungkin menunjukkan dia sudah tidak berminat untuk berbincang lagi. Mungkin dia kurang senang dengan cara anda.
• Mengalah dan minta maaf
Bersikap rasional. Sekiranya pendapat yang diberikan ada kebenarannya, terimalah. Sekiranya anda bersalah, minta maaf. Suami isteri harus sentiasa membasahkan lidah dengan perkataan "maaf".
Norizan Sharif
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Friday, May 22, 2009
NO MATTER...
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
It'd been a week today - how we miss Baba...
Tomorrow we'd miss him more. We had planned to be at the Karnival Harmoni, long before the dates were fixed. But it was not to be.. Lan will only be back Sunday night. The carnival will be over by then:(
Tomorrow we'll be spending the whole day at the carnival insyaAllah. It'll be tough with three kids in tow...but we'll manage biiznillah.
Today, pretty busy, spent almost the whole morning & afternoon editing K Long's assignment... .grrrrrrrrrrr!!!! Then spent the whole evening sorting things out with Jun - mineral water, of 'cos, hehe. Sales look good so far, alhamdulillah. Put in a new order, hopefully we can meet the demand.
Came back in time for maghrib. Glad to see 'Iffah's stuff nicely packed.
Sorry 'Iffah. Sure, I was mean & cruel. But sometimes, u gotta be cruel to be kind...... and I needed to get the message across. Love u all the same, no matter. Just remember that.
Phone kept ringing. We have 2 MISI meetings tonight! one after maghrib to discuss the timetable & after 'isya with team Karisma on the logistic and all.
Are u coming? Don't think so k ton. i'll give it a pass today, for once. pls proceed without me, need to sort things out on the homefront - it'd been sometime.They'll understand, insyaAllah. Might drop by though, after sending 'Iffah off to Al Amin. InsyaAllah....
It'd been a week today - how we miss Baba...
Tomorrow we'd miss him more. We had planned to be at the Karnival Harmoni, long before the dates were fixed. But it was not to be.. Lan will only be back Sunday night. The carnival will be over by then:(
Tomorrow we'll be spending the whole day at the carnival insyaAllah. It'll be tough with three kids in tow...but we'll manage biiznillah.
Today, pretty busy, spent almost the whole morning & afternoon editing K Long's assignment... .grrrrrrrrrrr!!!! Then spent the whole evening sorting things out with Jun - mineral water, of 'cos, hehe. Sales look good so far, alhamdulillah. Put in a new order, hopefully we can meet the demand.
Came back in time for maghrib. Glad to see 'Iffah's stuff nicely packed.
Sorry 'Iffah. Sure, I was mean & cruel. But sometimes, u gotta be cruel to be kind...... and I needed to get the message across. Love u all the same, no matter. Just remember that.
Phone kept ringing. We have 2 MISI meetings tonight! one after maghrib to discuss the timetable & after 'isya with team Karisma on the logistic and all.
Are u coming? Don't think so k ton. i'll give it a pass today, for once. pls proceed without me, need to sort things out on the homefront - it'd been sometime.They'll understand, insyaAllah. Might drop by though, after sending 'Iffah off to Al Amin. InsyaAllah....
SIAPA AKU?
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
(Sebuah Puisi Biografi Syeikh Ahmad Yasin, 1938-2004)
Lahirku di Kampung Al-Jaurah,
Selatan Tebing Gaza, 1938 Masihiah,
Tercetus perang 1948, familiku berpindah,
Mengharung kaki menuju Ghazzah. (Gaza)
Tika asyik beriadah bersama teman,
Malang menimpa, aku terhumban,
Lumpuh seluruh badan,
Namun, kutekad kekuatan,
Lumpuhku tidak bisa menghalang pergerakan,
Minda, fikiran, tadbir jua amalan...
Kutamatkan pengajian sekolah,
Kuteruskan ke Universiti Ain Syams, padah,
Setahun berlalu dan aku terpaksa berhenti,
Hati yang terhiris itulah,
Yang kubawa ke Mesir gagah,
Kukenal Ikhwan, sertai jamaah.
Di Palestin,
Akulah guru, mengajar tatatertib,
Berkhutbah di masjid, akulah khatib,
Akulah pengasas Majma' Islami,
Pada 70-an tekad bersemi.1983, aku ditangkap dituduh,
Pengasas Majd Mujahidin pembunuh,
13 tahun penjara, mahkamah menyuruh,
Namun terbebas selepas bulan kesepuluh.
Kuasaskan lagi gerakan HAMAS,
Gerakan Penentangan Islamiah, kemas,
1987, HAMAS berdiri tegas!
Sekali lagi, ditangkap askar Yahudi,
Dihukum penjara seumur abadi,
Ditambah 15 tahun lagi,Kerana mengasas HAMAS menggempa Yahudi!
Makin hari, kumakin lemah, di penjara,
Pandangan kananku hilang mutiara,
Mata kiriku kabur, terseksa didera,
Penyakitku kronik, dihantar ke Hospital Penjara.
Subuh 1 Oktober 1997 barakah,
Aku dibebas dengan janji payah,
Antara Jordan & Israel laknatullah,
Selepas serangan Khalid Masy'al tergagal, musnah.
Kusenyum, kulihatIntifadah Aqsa, bangkitnya ummat,
Menentang, melawan Zionis penjajah laknat,
Hingga terbunuh jua tercedera berat.
Pagi,Malam Isnin aku bersolat sendiri,
Munajatku mohon ke hadrat Ilahi,
Agar ganjaran Syahid diberi di sisi,
Dan kuniat puasa di pagi hari.
Masjid, 22 Mac 2004 - Fajarnya,
Usai solat Subuh, tiada lama hanya,
Tika berjalan pulang, aduh sakitnya,
Tiada rasa nyeri, pulanglah,
Pulanglah ke hadrat Tuhanku, Allah,
Haruman syurgawi, rohpun terbanglah,
Duniaku, pisahlah,
Nyata kerananya dan kerana-Nya aku lelah...
Akulah Syeikh Ahmad Ismail Yasin!
Siapa kamu?
Apa yang kamu telah sumbangkan untuk agama Allah?
3 April 2004,
Hotel Fatamorgana,
Sweileh, Amman.
Note: nukilan : wewr, dipetik dari http://zaadut-taqwa.blogspot.com
(Sebuah Puisi Biografi Syeikh Ahmad Yasin, 1938-2004)
Lahirku di Kampung Al-Jaurah,
Selatan Tebing Gaza, 1938 Masihiah,
Tercetus perang 1948, familiku berpindah,
Mengharung kaki menuju Ghazzah. (Gaza)
Tika asyik beriadah bersama teman,
Malang menimpa, aku terhumban,
Lumpuh seluruh badan,
Namun, kutekad kekuatan,
Lumpuhku tidak bisa menghalang pergerakan,
Minda, fikiran, tadbir jua amalan...
Kutamatkan pengajian sekolah,
Kuteruskan ke Universiti Ain Syams, padah,
Setahun berlalu dan aku terpaksa berhenti,
Hati yang terhiris itulah,
Yang kubawa ke Mesir gagah,
Kukenal Ikhwan, sertai jamaah.
Di Palestin,
Akulah guru, mengajar tatatertib,
Berkhutbah di masjid, akulah khatib,
Akulah pengasas Majma' Islami,
Pada 70-an tekad bersemi.1983, aku ditangkap dituduh,
Pengasas Majd Mujahidin pembunuh,
13 tahun penjara, mahkamah menyuruh,
Namun terbebas selepas bulan kesepuluh.
Kuasaskan lagi gerakan HAMAS,
Gerakan Penentangan Islamiah, kemas,
1987, HAMAS berdiri tegas!
Sekali lagi, ditangkap askar Yahudi,
Dihukum penjara seumur abadi,
Ditambah 15 tahun lagi,Kerana mengasas HAMAS menggempa Yahudi!
Makin hari, kumakin lemah, di penjara,
Pandangan kananku hilang mutiara,
Mata kiriku kabur, terseksa didera,
Penyakitku kronik, dihantar ke Hospital Penjara.
Subuh 1 Oktober 1997 barakah,
Aku dibebas dengan janji payah,
Antara Jordan & Israel laknatullah,
Selepas serangan Khalid Masy'al tergagal, musnah.
Kusenyum, kulihatIntifadah Aqsa, bangkitnya ummat,
Menentang, melawan Zionis penjajah laknat,
Hingga terbunuh jua tercedera berat.
Pagi,Malam Isnin aku bersolat sendiri,
Munajatku mohon ke hadrat Ilahi,
Agar ganjaran Syahid diberi di sisi,
Dan kuniat puasa di pagi hari.
Masjid, 22 Mac 2004 - Fajarnya,
Usai solat Subuh, tiada lama hanya,
Tika berjalan pulang, aduh sakitnya,
Tiada rasa nyeri, pulanglah,
Pulanglah ke hadrat Tuhanku, Allah,
Haruman syurgawi, rohpun terbanglah,
Duniaku, pisahlah,
Nyata kerananya dan kerana-Nya aku lelah...
Akulah Syeikh Ahmad Ismail Yasin!
Siapa kamu?
Apa yang kamu telah sumbangkan untuk agama Allah?
3 April 2004,
Hotel Fatamorgana,
Sweileh, Amman.
Note: nukilan : wewr, dipetik dari http://zaadut-taqwa.blogspot.com
Thursday, May 21, 2009
AIR MINERAL JIM
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
Promotional video, by Jun :)
Alhamdulillah, finally!
JIM-IPT with the help of JK Dana Pusat (read Jun!) will go all out, insyaAllah, to garner support from members & the public.
It'll be an on-going project & hope to raise sufficient amount to fund Karisma's & JIM-IPT's programmes throughout the year, insyaAllah. Ameen
Label - approved by KKM & various other bodies - all done in accordance to the requirements, alhamdulillah

Harga promosi;
Promotional video, by Jun :)
Alhamdulillah, finally!
JIM-IPT with the help of JK Dana Pusat (read Jun!) will go all out, insyaAllah, to garner support from members & the public.
It'll be an on-going project & hope to raise sufficient amount to fund Karisma's & JIM-IPT's programmes throughout the year, insyaAllah. Ameen
Label - approved by KKM & various other bodies - all done in accordance to the requirements, alhamdulillah
AIR MINERAL JIM

Assalamualaikum,
Semoga berada di bawah lembayung rahmat Ilahi.
Firman Allah SWT;
Maksudnya: "Dialah yang telah menurunkan air (hujan) dari langit untuk kamu, sebahagiannya menjadi minuman dan sebahagiannya (menyuburkan) tumbuhan, padanya kamu menggembalakan ternakmu. Dengan (air hujan) itu Dia menumbuhkan untuk mau tanam-tanaman, zaitun, kurma, anggur dan segala macam buah-buhan. Sungguh, pada yang demikian itu benar-benar terdapat tanda (kebesaran Allah) bagi orang yang berfikir." (Al-Nahl 16:10-11)
Pengenalan
Projek air minuman ini merupakan satu lagi projek usahasama dengan JIM-IPT Pusat dalam mengimarahkan aktiviti-aktiviti menjana dana.
Air minuman ini melalui teknik penapisan "Bio Active Energy". Merawat dan memproses air minuman beralkali dan bermineral seimbang yang unik untuk kesegaran semulajadi.
Air minuman ini telah mendapat pengiktirafan dari Halal Industry Development Corporation (Halalan Toyiban), juga telah dianalisa oleh Jabatan Kimia Malaysia.
Manfaat air:
1. Membekalkan bio energy hidup
2. Bersifat antioksidan penghapus radikal bebas
3. Meransang kelenjar endokrin secara efektif
4. Menolong menyingkirkan enapan merbahaya dari sendi-sendi arphritik / rheumatic
5. Meningkatkan jumlah sel antibodi semulajadi dalam badan
Objektif
1. Mengumpul dana
2. Sebagai minuman alternatif untuk ahli JIM serta masyarakat umum
3. Penjenamaan JIM secara tidak langsung
Sebagai minuman rasmi untuk program anda !!!
Harga promosi;
1. 1 karton (24 botol) = RM20.00
2. Lebih 2 karton = RM19.00
3. Harga seunit = RM 1.00
(TERM: CASH ON DELIVERY - COD)
InsyaAllah, air minuman JIM ini boleh didapati semasa Karnival Harmoni pada 22 - 24 Mei 2009 ini.
Tempahan boleh dibuat mulai sekarang melalui;
1. Wan Fauziah (JIM IPT Pusat) di talian 019-3374400
2. Jun (Peg. Eks Dana) ditalian +60341053159 @ +60341089669
(Mohon maklumkan kepada kami samada tempahan akan diambil semasa Karnival Harmoni @ di Pejabat JIM)
Pengedar diperlukan
Kerjasama dan sokongan yang diberikan oleh semua bagi menjayakan projek ini amat kami hargai.
Terima kasih di atas perhatian yang diberikan.
Wassalam,
_ _ _
Jun
Pegawai Eksekutif Dana
Jun
Pegawai Eksekutif Dana
Pertubuhan Jamaah Islah Malaysia (JIM)
+60341053159
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
M.SCHUMACHER'S DREAM CAR
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
I always had this 'thing' about JUARA (!) , you know, Juara THE Malaysian car!!!
This morning on the way to Jawaher's place to help with the KARNIVAL HARMONI doorgifts, spotted one yellow Juara ( do they make the Juara in any other colours??? never seen one...)
I was sort of tailgating, as it was moving so slow, taking its own sweet time going past the traffic lights..arrrrgh! As i inched closer, i saw this boldly printed across it's 'behind'!
" M.SCHUMACHER'S DREAM CAR" wow!! that really tickled me!
Thank you! to whoever the owner is, for brightening up my morning! for making me laugh myself silly ! it'd been sometime since i'd had a good,hearty laugh!!
I always had this 'thing' about JUARA (!) , you know, Juara THE Malaysian car!!!
This morning on the way to Jawaher's place to help with the KARNIVAL HARMONI doorgifts, spotted one yellow Juara ( do they make the Juara in any other colours??? never seen one...)
I was sort of tailgating, as it was moving so slow, taking its own sweet time going past the traffic lights..arrrrgh! As i inched closer, i saw this boldly printed across it's 'behind'!
" M.SCHUMACHER'S DREAM CAR" wow!! that really tickled me!
Thank you! to whoever the owner is, for brightening up my morning! for making me laugh myself silly ! it'd been sometime since i'd had a good,hearty laugh!!
Tuesday, May 05, 2009
TAWAKKALTU 'ALALLAH....
BABA'S CAR
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
This afternoon Lan brought back his new car...

We'd talked about this, and both of us unanimously agreed..it's a liability!!! in these days of mat rempits, kidnappings and all things ganazzzz... horror, horror!
na'udzubillah
To some, it's longgg overdue! The other day during Hari Sihat Anggun, one of the office gals jokingly said "at last, cek wan nak tukar kete!" hihi
The office was getting tired too, of having to foot the repair bills of the merc. The latest was ENORMOUS! OUCH!
Someone at the office took charge, put in the order & practically shoved it down our throats! haha, perhaps it's a blessing in disguise!!
Apa pun,
Then to UTM to send 'Iffah back to her studio.
To finish off her FINAL PROJECT for the FINAL SEM of her diploma! All the very best, Iffah!!!

Stopped by at rumah alumni for a late lunch, nice place nice food! alhamdulillah.

I love this place & K Long will surely love it too! - no crowd, clean, airy & all things nice.... Alhamdulillah

This afternoon Lan brought back his new car...
We'd talked about this, and both of us unanimously agreed..it's a liability!!! in these days of mat rempits, kidnappings and all things ganazzzz... horror, horror!
na'udzubillah
To some, it's longgg overdue! The other day during Hari Sihat Anggun, one of the office gals jokingly said "at last, cek wan nak tukar kete!" hihi
The office was getting tired too, of having to foot the repair bills of the merc. The latest was ENORMOUS! OUCH!
Someone at the office took charge, put in the order & practically shoved it down our throats! haha, perhaps it's a blessing in disguise!!
Apa pun,
O Allah, please put this world in our hands and not in our hearts for we desire the hearts which always remember You all the time.. ameen
Then to UTM to send 'Iffah back to her studio.
To finish off her FINAL PROJECT for the FINAL SEM of her diploma! All the very best, Iffah!!!
Stopped by at rumah alumni for a late lunch, nice place nice food! alhamdulillah.
I love this place & K Long will surely love it too! - no crowd, clean, airy & all things nice.... Alhamdulillah
Sunday, May 03, 2009
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem
Alhamdulillah, it's finally out! I almost abandoned the idea of writing when it suddenly struck me that this could be my highest attribute to my beloved mom - MOK!
There was so much to write yet it would never justify my real feelings - my everlasting love for Mok who had been my guiding star, whom I believe had loved me unconditionally... Oh how I missed her..
During the course of writing this short narration, tears just freely flowed as I recalled all those memories &.events. Putting them into words were so hard that at times I had to stop writing, for reminiscing really hurt - my heart ached for her presence. How could I not feel so, we shared so much during her final years.
Together we went thru the good & the bad times, together we shared our joys & sorrows, hopes & despair.
Thank you Allah for blessing me with a wonderful mother, for the beautiful times we spent together , for allowing me to be with her till the end...
Ya Allah, ya Rabb, please place my mother, and father, and dear brother, among the muttaqeen. Let us be reunited in your Jannah ya Allah. Ameen
Here's an excerpt from Roha's blog
Alhamdulillah, sebutir lagi pertama ilmu diterbitkan untuk kita semua hayati dan mengambil segala kebaikan darinya.


Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku adalah Sebutir Permata
Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku! Begitulah indahnya tajuk buku ini. Namun ia tidak seindah kasih sebenar seorang ibu. Namun kami yakin buku ini mampu membuatkan anda tersenyum disirami kasih ibu atau ketawa terkenangkan kisah lama atau menangis mengenangkan wajah ibu yang kini sudah berkedut dimamah usia atau mengalir air mata dek kerinduan pada bonda tercinta.
Anggaplah buku ini sekadar sebutir permata. Bukan yang terbaik tapi cahayanya cukup untuk menyuluh kehidupan generasi kita dan selepas kita dalam melalui liku-liku kehidupan sebagai seorang insan soleh wa musleh.
Tips daripada ibu madrasah pertama ku ini akan memberikan kita pelbagai pengajaran suka duka seorang ibu mendewasakan anak-anaknya. Sudah tentu tips tersebut dapat pula dimanfaatkan oleh kita untuk menyantuni anak-anak dan generasi muda di zaman kita dan akan datang.
Buku ini mengandungi kisah dua puluh tiga orang ibu membesarkan anak-anak yang kini sudah berjaya di bidang masing-masing.
Kerana kebahagiaan dan kejayaan yang mereka kecapi hasil sentuhan ibu, kini mereka ingin berkongsi dengan kita semua. Khususnya anda para pembaca. Banyak sekali kebaikan dalam bentuk pesanan atau perkongsian daripada para penulis tentang ibu masing-masing untuk kita ambil manfaatnya.
Mari kita hayati bersama setiap keindahan yang dinukilkan dalam buku, Ibu Madrasah Pertama ku ini.
Kandungan Buku
Bahagian I :
1) Fight For Your Right
Anfaal Saari
”Mama sentiasa tegas mengingatkan aku dan adik-adik untuk berani bangkit memperjuangkan hak kebebasan Ayah. Pengalaman ini mendidik kami adik-beradik menjadi lebih peka dan sensitif dengan hak-hak kami. Hak sebagai pengguna, sebagai mahasiswa dan sebagai warganegara.”...Fight For Your Right!....
2) Biar Miskin Dunia, Tapi Kaya di Akhirat Sana!
Anita Ali
“Tak apa kita miskin dunia, tetapi biarlah kita kaya di akhirat sana! Kita bukan orang kaya tetapi emak percaya satu hari nanti “Chek” pasti akan keluar juga dari kampung kita. Pada masa itu, “Chek” pasti akan tengok “dunia” di luar sana!”
3) Ibu! Oh Ibu! Engkaulah Ratu Hatiku
Azlina Isa
“Long, zikrullah nak ye, istiqamah, usrah jangan tinggal dan jalankan amanah yang Allah berikan dengan ikhlas dan jujur, istighfar dan selawat selalu. Buat baik dan bantu orang yang minta tolong. Jangan buat salah dengan orang. Biar dan maafkan orang yang buat salah kat kita. Kita jangan balas kejahatan mereka. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui segalanya dan biarlah Dia yang uruskan segalanya”.
4) Sikap Optimis Mu Pendorong Kejayaan Ku
Azlina Roszy Mohamad Ghaffar
”Emak adalah orang yang bertanggungjawab menjadikan ku seperti apa yang aku jadi pada hari ini. Emak adalah seorang yang berfikiran positif dan optimis. Dengan sikap sedemikian, emak sering mendorong dan memberikan respons yang positif dan optimis dalam apa jua permasalahan hidup yang aku hadapi”.
5)Emak Aku Adalah ‘Woman Of Substance’
Ir. Endok Sempo Mohd Tahir
”Tiada rehat selagi hidup, tiada pencen sebelum mati. Kerana hidup kita sentiasa berjuang dan kita mesti kaya untuk menolong orang lain.”
6)Ibu Madrasah Tarbiah Ku Yang Pertama
Fakhrul Anuar Zulkawi
"Tidak mampu ku gambar dan ungkapkan pengorbanan ibu dengan hanya sekadar lembaran penulisan ini. Namun, ku abadikan penulisan ini sebagai menunjukkan kasih sayang ku pada ibu yang tercinta. Kami bersyukur mempunyai ibu sebegini dan sudah pastinya ibu pula bertuah memiliki ayah yang berwawasan dan penyayang yang sentiasa berada di sisi. Ibu bukanlah seorang yang ternama apalagi berpendidikan tinggi namun jasa dan pengorbanan beliau bersama ayah mendidik ku serta adik-beradik ku yang lain sungguh tidak ternilai”.
7) Biar Miskin Harta, Jangan Miskin Ilmu -Faridah Maludin
8) Umi Penghibur, Pelindung Ku - Dr Hafidzah Mustakim
9) Ibu Madrasah Pertama - Hafizah @ Pen Aija
10) Apa Yang Ku Pelajari Dari Madrasah Hjh Siti Ramlah Anuar -Prof Madya Dr Harlina Halizah Hj Siraj
11)Kalau Kau Hendak Senang, Belajar Rajin-rajin - Haron Mohd Yusof (Hamdy)
12)Ibu Adalah Madrasah Pertama - Ibni Khalid Jurait
13)Kepercayaan Mu Penguat Semangat Ku - Kerisisiah Mohd Daud

14)Ibu Ku, Sahabat Ku…Pendamai Jiwa Ku - Norhayati S
15)Engkaulah Ibu, Engkaulah Ayah - Noor Faizah Sidek
16)Ibu Terlalu Istimewa Di Hatiku - Mahani Yusof
17)Ibu Madrasah Pertama Kami Sekeluarga - Ramlah Hussin
18)Sentuhan Ajaib Ibu - Roha Hassan
19)Pemergian Mu Tiada Pengganti - Rosnah Ahmad
20)Terima Kasih Mak - Salina Hassan
21)Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku - Siti Aishah Mahamad
22) Ibu Permata Hati Ku - Prof Madya Dr Umi Kalthom Ngah
23) Ibu Permata Hatiku, Madrasah Pertama Ku - Ummu Mukhlis
24) Kasih Ibu Tidak Bertepi - Wan Fauziah Wan Kadir
Bahagian II : Puisi Dan Panduan Tentang Ibu
1) Tip Buat Ibu Dan Bakal Ibu
2) Puisi Indah Buat Mu Ibu
3) Tika Saat Ini
4) Tentang Dia – Madrasah Pertama Kami
5) Selendang Merah Ibu
Alhamdulillah, it's finally out! I almost abandoned the idea of writing when it suddenly struck me that this could be my highest attribute to my beloved mom - MOK!
There was so much to write yet it would never justify my real feelings - my everlasting love for Mok who had been my guiding star, whom I believe had loved me unconditionally... Oh how I missed her..
During the course of writing this short narration, tears just freely flowed as I recalled all those memories &.events. Putting them into words were so hard that at times I had to stop writing, for reminiscing really hurt - my heart ached for her presence. How could I not feel so, we shared so much during her final years.
Together we went thru the good & the bad times, together we shared our joys & sorrows, hopes & despair.
Thank you Allah for blessing me with a wonderful mother, for the beautiful times we spent together , for allowing me to be with her till the end...
Ya Allah, ya Rabb, please place my mother, and father, and dear brother, among the muttaqeen. Let us be reunited in your Jannah ya Allah. Ameen
Here's an excerpt from Roha's blog
Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku Adalah Sebutir Permata (1)
Assalamualaikum wbt…Alhamdulillah, sebutir lagi pertama ilmu diterbitkan untuk kita semua hayati dan mengambil segala kebaikan darinya.
Nama Buku : Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku
Penyusun : Roha Hassan
Penerbit : Tinta Ori Enterprise
Usaha sama : Wanita JIM Pusat dan Tinta Ori Enterprise
Editor : Nazirah Idris dan Roha Hassan
Tebal Buku : 306 muka surat
Harga : RM25 sahaja / RM28 untuk Sabah dan Sarawak
Penyusun : Roha Hassan
Penerbit : Tinta Ori Enterprise
Usaha sama : Wanita JIM Pusat dan Tinta Ori Enterprise
Editor : Nazirah Idris dan Roha Hassan
Tebal Buku : 306 muka surat
Harga : RM25 sahaja / RM28 untuk Sabah dan Sarawak
Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku adalah Sebutir Permata
Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku! Begitulah indahnya tajuk buku ini. Namun ia tidak seindah kasih sebenar seorang ibu. Namun kami yakin buku ini mampu membuatkan anda tersenyum disirami kasih ibu atau ketawa terkenangkan kisah lama atau menangis mengenangkan wajah ibu yang kini sudah berkedut dimamah usia atau mengalir air mata dek kerinduan pada bonda tercinta.
Anggaplah buku ini sekadar sebutir permata. Bukan yang terbaik tapi cahayanya cukup untuk menyuluh kehidupan generasi kita dan selepas kita dalam melalui liku-liku kehidupan sebagai seorang insan soleh wa musleh.
Tips daripada ibu madrasah pertama ku ini akan memberikan kita pelbagai pengajaran suka duka seorang ibu mendewasakan anak-anaknya. Sudah tentu tips tersebut dapat pula dimanfaatkan oleh kita untuk menyantuni anak-anak dan generasi muda di zaman kita dan akan datang.
Buku ini mengandungi kisah dua puluh tiga orang ibu membesarkan anak-anak yang kini sudah berjaya di bidang masing-masing.
Kerana kebahagiaan dan kejayaan yang mereka kecapi hasil sentuhan ibu, kini mereka ingin berkongsi dengan kita semua. Khususnya anda para pembaca. Banyak sekali kebaikan dalam bentuk pesanan atau perkongsian daripada para penulis tentang ibu masing-masing untuk kita ambil manfaatnya.
Mari kita hayati bersama setiap keindahan yang dinukilkan dalam buku, Ibu Madrasah Pertama ku ini.
Kandungan Buku
Bahagian I :
1) Fight For Your Right
Anfaal Saari
”Mama sentiasa tegas mengingatkan aku dan adik-adik untuk berani bangkit memperjuangkan hak kebebasan Ayah. Pengalaman ini mendidik kami adik-beradik menjadi lebih peka dan sensitif dengan hak-hak kami. Hak sebagai pengguna, sebagai mahasiswa dan sebagai warganegara.”...Fight For Your Right!....
2) Biar Miskin Dunia, Tapi Kaya di Akhirat Sana!
Anita Ali
“Tak apa kita miskin dunia, tetapi biarlah kita kaya di akhirat sana! Kita bukan orang kaya tetapi emak percaya satu hari nanti “Chek” pasti akan keluar juga dari kampung kita. Pada masa itu, “Chek” pasti akan tengok “dunia” di luar sana!”
3) Ibu! Oh Ibu! Engkaulah Ratu Hatiku
Azlina Isa
“Long, zikrullah nak ye, istiqamah, usrah jangan tinggal dan jalankan amanah yang Allah berikan dengan ikhlas dan jujur, istighfar dan selawat selalu. Buat baik dan bantu orang yang minta tolong. Jangan buat salah dengan orang. Biar dan maafkan orang yang buat salah kat kita. Kita jangan balas kejahatan mereka. Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui segalanya dan biarlah Dia yang uruskan segalanya”.
4) Sikap Optimis Mu Pendorong Kejayaan Ku
Azlina Roszy Mohamad Ghaffar
”Emak adalah orang yang bertanggungjawab menjadikan ku seperti apa yang aku jadi pada hari ini. Emak adalah seorang yang berfikiran positif dan optimis. Dengan sikap sedemikian, emak sering mendorong dan memberikan respons yang positif dan optimis dalam apa jua permasalahan hidup yang aku hadapi”.
5)Emak Aku Adalah ‘Woman Of Substance’
Ir. Endok Sempo Mohd Tahir
”Tiada rehat selagi hidup, tiada pencen sebelum mati. Kerana hidup kita sentiasa berjuang dan kita mesti kaya untuk menolong orang lain.”
6)Ibu Madrasah Tarbiah Ku Yang Pertama
Fakhrul Anuar Zulkawi
7) Biar Miskin Harta, Jangan Miskin Ilmu -Faridah Maludin
8) Umi Penghibur, Pelindung Ku - Dr Hafidzah Mustakim
9) Ibu Madrasah Pertama - Hafizah @ Pen Aija
10) Apa Yang Ku Pelajari Dari Madrasah Hjh Siti Ramlah Anuar -Prof Madya Dr Harlina Halizah Hj Siraj
11)Kalau Kau Hendak Senang, Belajar Rajin-rajin - Haron Mohd Yusof (Hamdy)
12)Ibu Adalah Madrasah Pertama - Ibni Khalid Jurait
13)Kepercayaan Mu Penguat Semangat Ku - Kerisisiah Mohd Daud
14)Ibu Ku, Sahabat Ku…Pendamai Jiwa Ku - Norhayati S
15)Engkaulah Ibu, Engkaulah Ayah - Noor Faizah Sidek
16)Ibu Terlalu Istimewa Di Hatiku - Mahani Yusof
17)Ibu Madrasah Pertama Kami Sekeluarga - Ramlah Hussin
18)Sentuhan Ajaib Ibu - Roha Hassan
19)Pemergian Mu Tiada Pengganti - Rosnah Ahmad
20)Terima Kasih Mak - Salina Hassan
21)Ibu Madrasah Pertama Ku - Siti Aishah Mahamad
22) Ibu Permata Hati Ku - Prof Madya Dr Umi Kalthom Ngah
23) Ibu Permata Hatiku, Madrasah Pertama Ku - Ummu Mukhlis
24) Kasih Ibu Tidak Bertepi - Wan Fauziah Wan Kadir
Bahagian II : Puisi Dan Panduan Tentang Ibu
1) Tip Buat Ibu Dan Bakal Ibu
2) Puisi Indah Buat Mu Ibu
3) Tika Saat Ini
4) Tentang Dia – Madrasah Pertama Kami
5) Selendang Merah Ibu
Wednesday, April 08, 2009
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