O Allah, please put this world in my hand and not in my heart for I desire the heart which always remember You all the time. Please forgive me for I have sin. Verily You are the Most Gracious, Most Merciful
8 Ijah dah besarrrr....
Yang Di Tunggu Dah Tiba!
WAFIYAH Cucu ku Sayang - Born 24/12/08, Alhamdulillah!
Anjuran:
Pertubuhan Jamaah Islah Malaysia (JIM) Selangor & Wanita JIM Selangor Dengan kerjasama
Sekretariat Menangani Gejala Sosial JAIS
Objektif:
1. Memberikan pendedahan mengenai syariah Islam.
2. Memberikan penjelasan mengenai pelaksanaan syariah sebagai jalan penyelesaian gejala sosial.
3. Membetulkan beberapa salah-faham berkaitan pelaksanaan syariah.
Ucaptama
“Gejala Sosial: Syariah Jalan Penyelesaian”
oleh Ustazah Maznah Daud
Bualbicara:
“Membetulkan Salah Faham Tentang Syariah”
• PM Dr. Zulfakar Ramlee
• PM Dr. Normi Abdul Malek
Today, 'Atif's SPM began, with 2 papers - BM & Sejarah! Phooh! Sejarah..scaryyyyy!! Never like sejarah, din't take sejarah for my MCE. Perhaps I should have...... I took Ilmu Alam instead, and with Cg Wan Kadir as the subject teacher... arrgh.. kantoi!!
I believe 'Atif will do very well insyaAllah.
Felt a bit guilty for not being around . With kLong & 'Iffah, it was different. They were in Al Amin & girls being girls, I need not do much on my part... with 'Atif, we had planned to be in KB during his SPM, but with such tight end-of-year schedules, that had to be shelved. It's not that practical too, 'Atif will be at the hostel & it just wouldn't be right to take him out. We trust things are well taken care of & it's better for 'Atif to be among his friends.
It's a great consolation though, we brought him home last week. He managed to go through his lessons with Lan (ohh, he's sooooooo patient, the father, that is..) Lan's going back to KB again this weekend, to see how things are & continue from where they stopped! Tabik spring to Lan. I just don't have the patience....
It's good to have 'Atif back home, even for one week... sometimes I do miss the anxiety of having to constantly bug the kids to study! hehe
To 'Atif, we believe you will do your best.
Selamat mendudukiSPM. Baba & Ummi doakan 'Atif tenang & dapat menjawab dengan baik.
Today is a sad day indeed, no, last night was....
We both went to a meeting at PKJ last night & only got home around midnight. Was really careful opening the door not to wake the kids up - all were fast asleep, alhamdulillah, including 'Iffah.
Asked Iffah if she had solat isya', but she was too groggy to answer. Left it at that and decided to take my wudhu' first. Once ready, we'll wake her up.
Tonight we were going to solat hajat for 'Atif's SPM - his first paper the next day, wednesday. Besides there's another pending issue that also needs solat hajat ( & istikhoroh! )
On the way to the toilet , my heart missed a beat!!! The table looked a bit strange & empty... ya Allah, my laptop's not. there!! Quickly turned my eyes towards the computer table.. oh no! the other laptop's not there either!!!
My worst nightmare had finally happened.. all these time, I could only sympathise with neighbours & friends who had their houses broken into. Tonight, it happened to us.
We quickly checked the whole house to see what else were missing - Iffah's phone & some cash. We thanked Allah & syukur sangat the children were not harmed. They were fast asleep throughout, Alhamdulillah. Our greatest fear & concern was always the children's safety.
Syukur alhamdulillah too:-
the camera that I thought was on the table was later found to be in my handbag
the passports which had been lying around on the table the past week were taken into Mok's room yesterday evening for safekeeping
Several thousand ringgit of JIM"s Qurban money in the computer bag had been taken out and given to Wardah monday evening
On hindsight, syukur too there were the laptops, had there been nothing, they might have been disappointed and only Allah knows what could have happened, na'udzubillah.
It is so hard to comprehend what went through their minds, was there not a weeny bit of Iman that could jolt them to have Ihsan towards their victims, knowing the anguish & trouble out of their doings. Allahuakbar, I couldn't really close my eyes last night thinking about it. And even today, it feels really creepy thinking about starngers barging into our home, our private territory, supposedly a safe haven...
Ya Allah. Kami bersyukur atas segala ni'mat yang telah Engkau kurniakan. Tenangkan lah hati kami dalam redha menerima ketentuan Mu. Moga musibah ini menjadi kaffarah pada dosa2 kami. Ameen ya Rabbal 'aalameen
Wednesday we had usrah as usual., alhamdulillah Somehow along the way, our discussion veered towards the topic of Tabarruj! Something that should be close to our hearts. something that need to constantly be reminded as we trudge along in our daily lives - meeting & mixing with people around us. To many, Islam is potrayed by the Muslims. Don't let our potrayal of Islam make Islam looks bad in the eyes of the non-Muslims.
Among the essence of tabarruj is in the way we dress. As duat, like it or not, Islam will be judged by our akhlaq - the way we talk, we behave, we interact, we worship, we dress..... Take note of these in our dressing:
1.not tight/follow the body contour. Being slim & curvy or fat & bumpy is not the issue! Take note too of the material that clings to the body... 2.reasonable thickness - nothing shadowy! ok to put on nets or thin & flimsy materials as the trend is now, as long as it's with proper lining, including the arms, and topping up with petticoats if need be. Petticoat is an issue with the young ones... all should be made aware that without one, we are giving free shows of 'wayang kulit' when in the sun or under the light... 3.doesn't attract attention. Hmmm... how so the way i dress attract peoples' attention? the cut & fashion, for one. Then there's the colours. Not forgetting the accessories. Check all these factors out before putting on something, to go out i.e. At home? Put on anything u like, to your heart's desire..... 4.Not for show - that we put on something expensive, branded & class! oh how arrogant! and arrogance is one of the sifat2 mazmumah yang perlu dijauhi
True, it's subjective. and true too, each and every one of us has a personal 'code' - which might or might not be agreeable to all. Beware though, gradual changes which we initially think 'should be ok' might end up totally out of the Islamic 'code'!
Nor was relating a story of her trip to Germany recently. Of how one day she decided to try putting on a tudung different from the one she's used to! Of 'cos to others it looked alright & perfectly ok as it's worn by many others, majority in fact! But she was sooooo conscious & uncomfortable throughout. Ahhhhh..... what a relief when she finally slipped on the usual.....
I know that feeling.... I had just gone through it myself during Khalid's walimah - the purple baju kurung! hehehe
This afternoon K Long called "ummi dah baca email?" What a pleasant surprise!! Afan included my name as the co author in the article I helped edit for The Crescent Times!
Here's the said article, nothing to brag about actually, hehe. Could have done better. Next time , may be. Huhhh??
When Islamic bookstores are like “Borders”! by Mohd Safwan Saparudin & Wan Fauziah Wan Kadir
Once a month I will pay a visit to Borders, and sometimes to Dymocks in the Rundle Mall, looking for popular books and bestsellers. I enjoy observing people reading or just browsing, some of them with children in tow. Many seem to make reading a family activity. Inculcating good reading habits from young is important, be it to increase one’s knowledge or just for the fun of it.
Reading is the source of knowledge. Allah swt stated in His first revelation: Read! In the name of thy Lord who createth; createth man from clot; Read; and thy Lord is the Most Bounteous; who teacheth by pen; teacheth man that which he knew not. (Surah Al-Alaq: 1-5).
Through His prophet, Mohammed s.a.w, Allah commanded us to read and study to seek knowledge in order for us to spread the message of Islam to mankind.
From the time of the prophet (610 AD) until the time when Islam was at its peak (before the attack by the Mongols in 1258 AD), Islam had brought the world civilisation out of darkness, and knowledge is the key to this.
It is true that paper was first invented in China but the Muslim merchants had brought paper to the world through the Silk Road in the eight century! The use of paper then spread to other parts of the world including North Africa and Europe. England then revolutionised the use of paper in the 1450s by discovering printing and publishing methods. This could not have happened had not the Muslims introduced paper to the world!
Jonathan M. Bloom a professor in Islamic and Asian art, Boston College in his book “Paper Before Print: The History and Impact of Paper in the Islamic World” (Yale University Press) made clear the advances of Muslims in using paper. With the discovery of paper, writing and research by Muslim scholars in various fields of knowledge led to new discoveries and great inventions. Among the great Muslim inventors and scholars are Jabir Al-Hayyan (Geology), Al-Khwarizmi (Mathematicians), Mohammad Ali Rostam (Clocks), Ibn Baytar (Gunpowder), Najmuddin Hassan Al-Rahmah (rocket) and many others.
In conclusion, Islam teaches us the importance of knowledge. It has moulded the civilisation of the world. We thus have to educate ourselves and our children to continuously seek and love knowledge as the love for knowledge is the key to understanding Islam. With knowledge we can differentiate the good from bad, right from wrong and will be able to make wise and informed decisions in order to live our lives in accordance to the Qur’an and the Sunnah of beloved Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.
To quench the thirst for knowledge, especially Islamic knowledge, Muslims in Australia should strive for great Islamic bookstores with quality books, a huge range of selections, easy access and customer-friendly service, as can be found in Borders. How wonderful if we can recreate Baytul Hikmah (833 AD, Baghdad) in Australia!
*Safwan Saparudin is very active in Islamic activities in Australia. He is married to Wan Afrah WA Nizar and blessed with a lovely daughter, Wafiyah. Graduated from International Islamic University Malaysia in Laws (Bachelor) and Shariah Laws (Postgraduate studies), he is the Managing Director of Hidayah Stores Australia and Director of Hidayah Quranic Centre. He is also a Fellow Researcher for Palestine Centre of Excellence (PACE). *Wan Fauziah graduated from the University of Adelaide with a B.Architecture. Currently, is a member of the Educational & Human Development Committee in the Women’s wing of Selangor State Malaysia Reformation Group (JIM), a Malaysian Islamic NGO.
Bismillahirrahmanirraheem Alhamdulillah, this past week had been fruitful.
Early in the morning Afan messaged for us to check out their spring camp on youtube. MasyaAllah! Teruskan usaha2 bina & bina ini. Moga terus thabat.
Rindunya pada Wafi...
Today tuned in tu radio IKIM at 3.15 pm to listen to Yan's promo for MAN '09 in slot Agenda Ummah. Way to go Yan! Alhamdulillah We have yet to book for seats - we sure will not miss this, insyaAllah!
Today too sorted out zakat PERKIM for akh Ammar. Othman & Zaid assured that things will be taken care of, insyaAllah. Alhamdulillah.
Had our monthly meeting tonight which ended at around 1.30 am. Yawwwwwnnnn! so many things to decide..
Early Tuesday morning picked up Norliah & joined Pah to Hosp Ampang. Haven't been there for quite sometime, looks like I'll have to renew my Sahabat membership & resume my visits. Today we're attending talks on 'pengurusan psikososial penderaan wanita & kanak2' + majlis penghargaan sumbangan PZS in upgrading the Balai Pelawat. The talk on OSCC was a big letdown - perhaps because we are already involved in its programmes & have access to all its info.
The food was good though, hehe. Met Molly, Afan's mak sepupu, for the first time. Heard about her from Pah but never had the chance to meet her-she's staying just nearby, Hulu Kelang! We made our move after lunch as usrah is on as usual this evening. Picked Zharif from Anfal's , Filzah is with Yan , beraya sakan! Alhamdulillah support system is excellent! no reason not to get involved...
Our first WJS meeting scheduled for wednesday was on. Dinner prepared by Salmi was slurrrpingly good, alhamdulillah! K Ton got here eary, 5.30, earlier than me!! The rest arrived after maghrib. While waiting, the two of us had informal discussions & came up with a few proposals - that helped cut our meeting time, alhamdulillah.
Yan was overwhelmed with her task organising MAN'09. To keep her spirit up, sent her this SMS.It's a reminder to myself too...
Alhamdulillah, Allah sibukkan kita dengan amal2 Islami. Moga diterima Allah sebagai pemberat timbangan di hadapanNya nanti. Alangkah rugi mereka yang disibukkan dengan urusan dunia semata..
Moga Allah permudah
We were having a big programme Friday night. Had to ensure high attendance from Ampang Jaya. Much time spent calling & sms-ing around. Late Wed night the organisers requested that we supply 1k bottles of air JIM & 1k muffins! say yes first, worry later! hoho Alhamdulillah, air JIM-ok with en Anis, & muffins - ok with k Banun - they'll even deliver the orders to the programme! Mudah keje..
Our plan was to send the kids (+ yan's kids) to Putrajaya. Our original plan was to move after 'asr. Kita rancang, Allah juga rancang - in the end we only managed to join the traffic on MRR2 way past maghrib, 7.50 to be exact, and we have to be at the programme at 8! sigh..... then we had to turn back....
Dani wanted to use the estima to attend auzan's walimah in johor. so i said ok, we'll leave the key in the postbox. put the key in an envelope & placed in the po together with another envelope with k pi's DY roadtax. Just as we sped on MRR2, realised that I was still clutching the car key! arghhhh I must have placed the housekey in the envelope! Back we go. As Lan was switching the keys, got another sms, tak jadi pinjam! oh well, we might as well take the key with us then & rush rush we go up the MRR2! As we reached Pandan, got another sms, they'll pick the van at 10! arrrgggggghhhh!
Traffic up to Pandan was bad (oh well, its Friday night..) Putrajaya hiway was ok Alhamdulillah. Dropped the kids & off we go! we got there 9.15, more than 1 hr late huhu. By the time we crawled into bed, it was almost 2 am. aduhhhh. tomorrow's another long day...
While Mr. P. Gunasegaran ( No to whipping for drinking, 28 Aug 2009, Star ) and those in the similar vein are entitled to their freedom of expression, it nonetheless needs to be pointed out that his abrasive intrusion into the intoxicating whipping debate is in extreme bad taste and a blatant affront to Muslim sensitivity.
His high and mighty pronouncement ( read fatwa ) based on his secular theology and his one sentence reference to some unnamed Muslim scholar, makes him an overnight jurist ( read Mufti ) !
Despite 52 years of Merdeka, quite apparently and most unfortunately, the civilized and democratic values of mutual respect is sorely missing in our multi-religious co-existence. And as far as Muslims are concerned, there has been one too many Islamophobic sentiments snowballing by the day in the mainstream editorials, press reports and cyber portals.
Fed by deep-seated prejudice, and popular misconceptions towards Islam and the Shariah, the words "barbaric", "cruel", and "inhumane" are hurled without regard for the sensitivity of Muslims.
Barbaric, cruel, and inhumane are after all relative terms that are employed to demonize the other. This media onslaught, directly or indirectly, knowingly or unknowingly, attempts to belittle and humiliate the Shariah justice system, an entire institution whose place in our nation is legitimated by history and the Constitution.
What else does one make of the following headlines “and lets do away with a slew of outmoded, archaic laws in the statute books, both syariah and civil”. He further adds “there is real danger of disarray when man purports to speak for God”. I hasten to respond by asking - should we then let him (the editor) play God or better still be God ?
Islam, meaning ‘submission’- however awkward such a notion is to secular liberal thinking – is acceptance with a free conscience both the tenets of the faith and outwardly the injunctions of the Shariah which encompasses formal ritual worship and the regulation of personal and social mores based on sacred texts.
Believers of other faiths, liberal secularists and secular atheists need to understand that Islam is the governing principle in every aspect of a Muslim's life to a degree seldom seen in the adherents and practitioners of other religions. Islam is not just a matter of rituals and worship; Islam is a complete way of life. For those who cannot or will not accept the crucial importance of this most important reality in the life of all Muslims we can only say, hopefully without insult, please stay out of our business.
As Muslims we have no difficulty accepting that non-Muslims have different beliefs and live their lives differently than we do. Please show us the same courtesy.
His editorial among others, reflect the distressing trend that non-Muslims are making ill-informed, prejudiced and unwelcome comments on the religion of the majority of people of this country. This is very unhealthy, and dangerously crossing the lines of civilized discourse.
There exists a myriad of opinions on the issue of consumption of intoxicants. But the Muslim scholars are unanimous that the offender must be punished.
If the offence is considered under the jurisdiction of hudud (limits), as is embraced by the schools of thought of Syafie, Maliki and Hanafi, caning must be meted without exception. This being the stipulate of God for the good of the bigger society.
However, Al-Qaradhawi, the celebrated contemporary scholar, in consonant with the likes of At-Tabari, Ibn Munzir, As-Syawkani and Ibn Qayyim opines that this offence is within the domain of ta’zir (discretionary penalty). Thus, the judge may choose to forgive the first time offender or he may elect to cane the offender and would stipulate the number of canings. As alluded by others, the caning is unlike the brutal and vicious whippings as prescribed by the civil courts.
Asst. Prof. Dr. Zulfakar, who lectures Islamic criminal law in the International Islamic University of Malaysia, and Datuk Abdul Munir Yaakob, SUHAKAM commissioner, concurred that the courts acted within the State Shariah Criminal Offences Act notwithstanding the seven day remand order.
The Shariah court is part of Malaysia's dual justice system which has jurisdiction over Muslims and the decision of the Kuantan Shariah High Court must be respected as such That is the rule of law enjoyed by both the Shariah and Civil courts and outside interference would tantamount to contempt of court. The due process of appeal is open to the victim if justice is not done or seen to be done.
In this media frenzy, the irony has not been lost that Kartika herself has accepted the sentence and has refused appeal despite the suggestion by no less the Prime Minister himself. This underscores one of the objectives of the Shariah, to guide Muslims to be more observant of their religious obligations through remorse and repentance.
The controversy surrounding Kartika's sentencing also exposes the sometimes uneasy co-existence of the world views of Islam and that of modern secular society. Attempts to fit Islam into the secular world view is like forcing a square peg into a round hole.
Globally, the World Health Organisation (WHO) reports that alcohol causes 1.8 million deaths (3.2% of total) and 58.3 million (4% of total) of Disability-Adjusted Life Years (DALYs). The U.S. Department of Justice Report on Alcohol and Crime found that alcohol abuse was a factor in 40 percent of violent crimes committed in the U.S. The British Home office reports a figure of 45% which rose to 58% in cases of attacks by unrecognized persons. We have not even begun to mention the primary role of alcohol in road traffic accidents, domestic violence, drug dependence, alcoholism, women and alcohol, adolescents and alcohol, fetal alcohol syndrome, alcohol and liver cirrhosis, alcohol and brain damage, alcohol and cancer risk, the causal link between alcohol and 60 different types of diseases etc.
God says in the Quran, Chapter 2, Verse 219 : “They ask you concerning wine and gambling. Say: 'There is a great sin in both of them, and (some) profits for people; but their sin is greater than their profit …”
As Muslims, our absolute love and allegiance is to our Creator, whose infinite wisdom we do not question. Thus, it is completely unacceptable and reprehensible that any from amongst his creations, should instruct us otherwise applying their fallible human and secular opinions and standards.
Board of Directors Muslim Professionals Forum
Dr. Mazeni Alwi Dr. Jeffrey Abu Hassan Dr. Shaikh Johari Bux Haji Mohamed Ali Ghazali Dato’ Dr. Musa Mohd. Nordin
School break coincided with the first week of Ramadhan. Our boys went back Saturday morning, 1st Ramadhan after being sent home for one week due to the H1N1 outbreak. They were happy of 'cos to be back, but not too happy having to head back to school just as others head home from school for the one week break! oh well, they'll be back one week early for the raya break . that's a consolation enough.
Saturday morning I had a ladies' programme, as scheduled. We hosted for zon 1 Selangor - Ampang Jaya, Gombak, Hulu Langat, Hulu Selangor & Kelang. As hosts we had to be there early, so had to bid the boys bye bye at home instead of at the bus stand. Bye-bye boys! Safe journey, insyaAllah.
Zharif had ujian diagnostik for std 1 entrance to Al Amin, so Lan had to send him there, taking Ulfah & Filzah along. The test would start at 9, so everybody had to move early too, to send the boys to Hentian Putra & rush back to SRIAAG by 9, though the bus only leaves at 9.30! Rush! rush! rush! as usual.. hehe. At 9,30 got a call from Lan... oh oh.. Zharif's turn is at 11.30, since mom&dad need not go thru the parents' interview session :) sowwy! Back to bed,Lan said...call me up at 11, in case I oversleep... hmmm
We normally had KRJ prog during school breaks - no news so far. Halipah is the new KRJ wanita head, she wanted to, but haven't done anything as yet.. huhu Masjid alMardhiyyah wanted us to organise something for the remaja, so we decided to give it a go. Not much time left, but we'll manage, insyaAllah. Othman agreed to it & will consult the AJK Masjid.
Alhamdulillah Bai too agreed to handle the programme, phew! that was a great relief, otherwise it would be big trouble for us...
Monday morning went to see Bai & Nina to discuss the details.It'll be on Wednesday-Thursday, 2 days away.... "How many participants, mcik??" who knows, we haven't even announced it! haha. Then began the mad rush of preparing the flyers & posters , though distribution pending, waiting for the masjid's approval. After maghrib we presented our working paper to the AJKs. They were quite sceptical - with one day promotion, can we get the number ?? insyaAllah.... :) The programme was announced after isya' & the first batch of flyers were distributed immediately after tarawikh.
Tuesday was the only day left... registration was trickling...worry! worry! Wednesday morning, went to the Masjid with a very heavy heart, worried sick that only a handful would turn up..... who knows, ajk & facies might outnumber the paricipants!boo hoo
Alhamdulillah thummalhamdulillah! by 9 we had more than 40 boys & girls eargerly waiting for the programme to start (huh??)
And so the show began, with Bai & team handling the programme superbly! ALHAMDULILLAH!
Ulfah & her new-found friend
Smart facies - job well done! alhamdulillah!
The Timbalan Nazir was happy with the programme, alhamdulillah."This is only the first week of Ramadhan, plenty time for more.." uhuks..
JZKK for 'officiating' the closing ceremony... we hope for more JVs in the future, insyaAllah
Ramadhan is indeed a month full of tests & tribulations, be it in the form of musibah or ni'mat.These gauge our level of taqwa, based on the way we react - syukur for the wealth & health, & accept - redha with what comes our way. Allah's promise of jannah & all things good that come with Ramadhan doesn't come cheap! La'allakum tattaqun - attaining highest taqwa is not as simple as alif ba ta.
Preparing to welcome this holy month is never ending, no matter how much reading I did, discussions participated in nor tapes listened to. There seems to be so much to do to grab all the bounties promised.
Oh Allah, make us among those whom You bestow your rahmah - the time & will to prostrate only unto You, especially in the last 10 days of Ramadhan. Oh Allah, give us the strength....Ameen.
This Ramadhan, as during the previous 2 Ramadhans, we intended to spend our time at Masjid AsySyakiin KLCC. It would be so convenient - iftar & staying till after tarawikh - time would not be wasted & I need not do much cooking!! The kids loved it too, seeing old friends & having a ball running around in the large open area. More importantly, their presence wouldn't be a nuisance to the jemaah. I loved it here mainly because of that, not having to worry about people scorning at me for bringing kids who make lots of noise, disturbing those praying. With the kids outside under the watchful eyes of the guards, I can pray in peace Alhamdulillah
Fisrt night of tarawikh we made our way to KLCC - wahhhh! it had changed since the last time we were there... there was an additional level & the fountain was nomore there! Renovation work was still in progress. It was ok though, Alhamdulillah
1st Ramadhan, Lan had a bad flu, so bye bye KLCC! Worried about H1N1,we had iftar at home & went to surau al Aqsa for tarawikh. It was quite a let down though - the imam was good, a hafiz, alhamdulillah. He recited ok during fardhu prayers but was too fast for comprehension during tarawikh prayers. Astaghfirullah.. we looked at each other in the car & agreed that it's bye bye surau al Aqsa....
Heard about the good food at Masjid Mardhiyyah he he , so we made a beeline to al Mardhiyyah for our second day iftar. It's somewhere familiar, we saw all the familiar faces & indeed! the food was good!! Salmi's the caterer, no wonder.. Besides the good food,which is a bonus; praying in the air-cond + the kids in the playing area outside + just nearby our place, this seemed perfect! With these conveniences, al Mardhiyyah it'll be this Ramadhan! insyaAllah
Soda, sugar, high fructose corn syrup, HFCS. Statistics shows that Americans drink more soda than ever before. They account for more than 25 percent of all drinks consumed in the United States. More than 15 billion gallons were sold in 2000 -- about one 12-ounce can per day for every man, woman and child.
But here’s some information that may keep you away from opening the can:
1. Extra pounds Soda is a significant contributor to obesity. Drinking a single can a day of sugary drinks translates to more than a pound of weight gain every month. And diet soda is just as likely to cause weight gain as regular, or even more -- it may sound counterintuitive, but people who drink diet soft drinks actually don’t lose weight. Artificial sweeteners induce a whole set of physiologic and hormonal responses that actually make you gain weight.
2. Liver damage Soda damages your liver. Consumption of too many soft drinks puts you under increased risk for liver cirrhosis similar to the increased risk faced by chronic alcoholics.
3. Tooth decay Soda dissolves tooth enamel. Soft drinks are responsible for doubling or tripling the incidence of tooth decay. Soda's acidity is even worse for teeth than the solid sugar found in candy.
4. Kidney stones and chronic kidney disease Colas of all kinds are well known for their high phosphoric acid content, a substance that changes the urine in a way that promotes kidney stone formation. Drinking one quart (less than three 12-ounce cans) of soda per week may increase your risk of developing kidney stones by 15 percent.
5. Diabetes Anything that promotes weight gain increases the risk of diabetes. Drinking soda also stresses your body's ability to process sugar. Some scientists now suspect that this may explain why the number of Americans with type 2 diabetes has tripled from 6.6 million in 1980 to 20.8 million today.
6. Heartburn & acid reflux Heavy consumption of soda is a strong predictor of heartburn. Many carbonated beverages are very acidic. They also deliver a lot of air in the form of carbon dioxide, which can cause distension of your stomach. And that distension appears to be associated with more reflux.
7. Soft drinks = Soft Bones = Osteoporosis Soft drinks containing phosphoric acid are definitely linked to osteoporosis (a weakening of your skeletal structure) because they lead to lower calcium levels and higher phosphate levels in your blood. When phosphate levels are high and calcium levels are low, calcium is pulled out of your bones.
8. Hypertension (high blood pressure) Experts have reasons to believe that overconsumption of soda leads to an increase in blood pressure. It doesn't matter if the soda is regular or diet.
9. Heart disease Heavy soda drinkers are more likely to develop risk factors for heart disease. Research shows that drinking more than one soft drink a day is associated with an increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome -- a group of symptoms such as central obesity, elevated blood pressure, elevated fasting blood sugar, elevated fasting triglycerides, and low levels of HDL or "good" cholesterol. Having three or more of the symptoms increases your risk of developing diabetes and cardiovascular disease.
10. Impaired digestion (gastrointestinal distress) Gastrointestinal distress includes increased stomach acid levels requiring acid inhibitors, and moderate to severe gastric inflammation with possible stomach lining erosion. Drinking sodas, especially on an empty stomach, can upset the fragile acid-alkaline balance of your stomach and other gastric lining, creating a continuous acid environment. This prolonged acid environment can lead to inflammation of your stomach and duodenal lining.
It'd been ages since the last entry :( Boo hoo, been so busy with sooooo many things + having to update JIM AJ blog
To Afan, K Long & Wafi; Ummi & Baba wish u safe & enjoyable journey-adelaide-newcastle-sydney-melbourne-adelaide (lucky Wafi, Tok got to do that only at the age of 20... on Tok & Tok Wae's honeymoon, ho ho ho).
those were the days... :)
Remember not to stress yourselves. Drive safely. Stop driving when you feel sleepy. bla...bla... bla..... just remember, we love u lots!!!!
and to 'Iffah - makan ubat!! hope you'll be up & about again soon. To take your IELTS, fill up forms, apply for visa bla..bla.... CONGRATS 'Iffah! just remember, we love u lots too!! Thank you Marissa for looking after 'Iffah in her time of needs. Moga Allah rahmati
here's a good article to guide us thru turbulances in our marriages ;)
Rumahtangga bukanlah istana kayangan. Ia adalah satu perkongsian hidup yang menuntut pengorbanan kedua-dua belah pihak.
Sekiranya sebelum berkahwin dulu seseorang boleh berkata, "Ini hidup saya, ikut suka sayalah pukul berapa saya hendak pulang ke rumah, atau hendak berkawan dengan siapa." Bagaimanapun, setelah berumahtangga, keadaan berubah. Ijabkabul menjadikan sebahagian dirinya milik "orang lain".
Perkahwinan membawa bersama-sama tanggungjawab. Namun, perkahwinan juga membawa kebahagiaan dan kegembiraan bagi pasangan yang mampu mengharunginya dengan jaya. Usah harapkan rumahtangga yang tidak ada masalah. Belajar bagaimana untuk menguruskan cabaran yang timbul dalam sesebuah perkahwinan itu.
PERSELISIHAN PENDAPAT
Kata orang tua-tua, "Sedangkan lidah lagi tergigit, inikan pula suami isteri." Perselisihan pendapat adalah merupakan sebahagian asam garam kehidupan berumahtangga. Ia sebenarnya adalah proses mencari satu asas kesamaan dalam satu-satu perkara.
Hal ini tidak dapat dielakkan kerana suami dan isteri dibesarkan dalam suasana yang berbeza dan mempunyai pengalaman hidup sebelum berumahtangga yang berlainan. Selain itu, pendidikan yang diterima dan pergaulan juga mempengaruhi cara seseorang berfikir dan melihat sesuatu isu.
Perselisihan pendapat harus dilihat secara positif. Sekiranya dikendalikan dengan baik, perselisihan pendapat boleh membantu sesuatu pasangan mengukuhkan perkahwinan. Melalui perselisihan pendapat, suami dan isteri dapat mencari titik persamaan.
Adalah lebih baik untuk suami dan isteri berselisih pendapat daripada mendiamkan diri dan memendam rasa. Pasangan yang memendam rasa mungkin kelihatan bahagia pada mata umum, namun rasa tidak berpuas hati yang disimpan boleh menjadi bom jangka yang akan meletup satu hari nanti.
Suami dan isteri harus mempelajari teknik yang betul untuk mengendalikan perselisihan pendapat. Bagaimana?
• Tunjukkan kasih sayang
Ingat, perselisihan pendapat bukanlah sesuatu yang negatif. Ia juga bukan merupakan titik penamat perkahwinan anda. Oleh itu, kendalikan perselisihan pendapat dengan penuh kasih sayang.
Nyatakan ketidaksetujuan anda dengan penuh rasa kecintaan. Tentukan pasangan anda mengetahui bahawa walaupun anda tidak bersetuju dengan pendapat atau perbuatannya, anda sayangkannya.
Sekiranya anda ingin menegur perbuatan suami, mulakan dengan kata-kata seperti: "Abang, Ani amat sayangkan Abang. Ani ucapkan terima kasih kerana selama ini Abang amat baik dan menyayangi Ani. Abang, boleh tak kalau Ani menyatakan sesuatu kepada Abang?"
Suami yang mendengar kata-kata sedemikian tahu bahawa isterinya ingin memberikan pendapat demi kebaikan bersama. Dia akan lebih terbuka untuk mendengar pendapat tersebut.
• Gunakan bahasa yang baik
Layani pasangan anda sebagai kekasih – bukan musuh. Gunakan bahasa yang baik. Sekiranya selama ini anda memanggil isteri anda dengan panggilan "Sayang", "Honey" atau "Intan", gunakan panggilan tersebut walaupun anda berselisih pendapat. Perkataan "awak" tidak manis didengar dan lebih bersifat provokatif.
Elakkan ayat-ayat seperti: "Jangan buatkan saya marah!" "Perbuatan awak ini menyakitkan hati saya!" Sebaliknya, gunakan ayat pemujukan dan berbentuk luahan perasaan seperti: "Kalau Abang pulang awal, kita akan ada banyak masa bersama…" atau "Azie rasa seronok apabila bersama Abang. Boleh tak Abang habiskan cuti setiap hujung minggu bersama Azie?"
• Berikan perhatian
Dengar dengan teliti. Cuba fahami apa yang tersirat di sebalik yang tersurat. Sesekali angguk bagi menunjukkan anda mendengar dan cuba memahami apa yang ingin disuarakan oleh pasangan anda. Sewaktu pasangan anda bercakap, elakkan berfikir bagaimana untuk membalas hujah tersebut. Dengar, dengar dan dengar. Anda bukan di pentas perbahasan dan anda tidak perlu menang dalam perselisihan pendapat dengan pasangan anda.
• Fokus kepada satu isu
Tumpukan perselisihan pendapat kepada satu isu sahaja. Elakkan mengaitkannya dengan isu-isu lain. Lagi banyak isu, bertambah sukar untuk mencari titik persamaan. Elakkan mengaitkan isu tersebut dengan soal peribadi yang tidak boleh diubah. Menyalahkan suami atau isteri kerana dia gemuk, rendah, botak atau latarbelakang keluarganya tidak akan membawa penyelesaian. Sebaliknya, itu akan menjadikannya agresif dan menyerang peribadi anda kembali.
• Baca bahasa gerak badan
Berhati-hati dengan gerak badan anda. Elakkan mencekak pinggang, menuding jari, meninggikan suara dan pandangan tajam. Kesemua ini memberikan gambaran kemarahan anda.
Perhatikan juga gerak badan pasangan anda. Adakah dia menundukkan muka, berdiam diri atau memalingkan muka. Itu mungkin menunjukkan dia sudah tidak berminat untuk berbincang lagi. Mungkin dia kurang senang dengan cara anda.
• Mengalah dan minta maaf
Bersikap rasional. Sekiranya pendapat yang diberikan ada kebenarannya, terimalah. Sekiranya anda bersalah, minta maaf. Suami isteri harus sentiasa membasahkan lidah dengan perkataan "maaf".
